Username:    Password:      Remember me       

Cancer Forums

A website for discussions about any type of cancer, including lung cancer, breast cancer, mesothelioma, prostate cancer, laryngeal cancer, leukemia, lymphoma, multiple myeloma and others

SearchSearch   DigestsEmail Digests     Register to postRegister to post   ProfileProfile   Check private messagesCheck private messages   Log inLog in 
Help me help My daughter Cope What is this ?

 
Post new topic   Reply to topic    Cancer Forums Forum Index -> Coping and Support


Author
concerned mom
New User


Joined: 29 Jul 2005
Posts: 1
PostPosted: Fri Jul 29, 2005 12:35 pm    Post subject: Help me help My daughter Cope Reply with quote
My almost 11 year old daughter has a friend and classmate who is batteling cancer. He has had several brain tumors, some removeable and the last one was not. He now has a tumor on and wrapped around his spinal cord that is inoperable. His prognoises does not sound very good. It sounds as though we are talking just a matter of time at this point.

I am posting to ask for help in explaining all this to my daughter. I am not sure how much or how little to tell her. I feel there is a fine line between helping her cope and scaring her. It is hard for anyone to accept the potenial death of a child and it makes it very hard when he is the lil boy who sits next to her when he is able to attend school. If anyone can help me with this I would be forever grateful.
Thanks for "listening"
Paula
Back to top
amitaken
New User


Joined: 31 Jul 2005
Posts: 2
PostPosted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 8:16 pm    Post subject: Re: Help me help My daughter Cope Reply with quote
I think that the best choice you can make in this situation is to be honest with your daughter. If you do not give her the facts in this matter than there is a very good chance she will get poor information from her classmates through discusions and the like.

With this being said, you should give her the information regarding her class mate in a manner that builds on what she currently understands about life and death.

From my previous experiences, you should give her as much information as she can understand. If you do not give her this information and the tools she will need to cope his illness and possible deterioration then she may never fully assimilate what is happening.

It sounds like you are a very caring and nurturing person and I think that your instincts will correctly guide you in your discussion with your daughter.
_________________
http://mesot.blogspot.com

Up to date reviewed cancer information and my ramblings.
Back to top


Display posts from previous:   
Post new topic   Reply to topic    Cancer Forums Forum Index -> Coping and Support All times are GMT - 5 Hours
Page 1 of 1

 
Jump to:  
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum
Download our Toolbar



About the author
E-mail webmaster
Terms, conditions and privacy policy		 We subscribe to the HONcode principles of the HON Foundation. Click to verify. We subscribe to the HONcode principles. Verify here. All content and posts are copyright.
Powered by phpBB © 2001, 2002 phpBB Group