Loss of a loved one

shelltom23 · New User Joined: 28 Jan 2006 Posts: 1

I just lost my dad Sunday 1/22/2006 to aml leukemia. It's been so hard to coped with it. At christmas time his counts were up and we thought he was beating it. He then went back into the hospital on 1/4/2006 and a week later he got chemo and then all his organs started failing. He was only 64 and a wonderful down to earth guy. It's been very hard for me because April 2005 I just got married and now I feel like a part of me died. Please somebody help me to try and cope with this. All I do is cry everyday. I miss him very much.

KNASH · Regular Joined: 27 Dec 2005 Posts: 14

I am grieving as well. My mother passed on the 22nd, she was 64. I feel angry at times because she was so young. She was diagnosed with lung cancer at the end of October. We had a great Christmas, everything seemed normal. I know how you feel, i cry all day as well. It has helped me just looking at pictures of us. I remember the good times and know that i will see her again one day. I will pray for you.

AwesomeMachine · New User Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 7 Location: USA

Please monitor this thread. It is also to both of you.

http://cancerforums.net/viewtopic.php?t=2989

Severe grief can be a sign your loved one is not in Heaven. Severe grief is a warning signal to you that your loved one needs help. Jesus Christ is the only One Who can help your loved one.

The remedy for this is to go to Roman Catholic Confession, confess your sins with contrition and repentance; and receive absolution from the Priest, which is straight from Jesus Himself. Do your penance you received from the Priest, rest in the Church for as long as you need to, and light a votive candle. Tell God you want <full name of cancer victim> to have this candle burning in Heaven for them, and say the following prayer: God, Through The Immaculate Heart of Mary, The Mother of God, I pray: I am grateful to Jesus Christ, Your only Son, for saving me from eternal death by fire in Hell, through Jesus' Supreme Sacrifice, the Perfect Living Sacrifice of Himself by His Own Free Will. In a state of Grace, I take responsibility for all of <full name of cancer victim> unforgiven sins, especially the sin of <any specific thing that comes to mind>. I confess these sins as my own because You are Merciful and Just to forgive these sins, so <full name of cancer victim> is freed for entry into Heaven. I ask You, Jesus, to forgive me for these sins by The Power of Your Precious Blood that was shed for all men, on The Cross, so I and <loved one> might share eternal life with You. Father, I accept The Precious Blood of Jesus Christ payment for my and <full name of cancer victim's> freedom, by the Promises of Jesus Himself.
We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.

After this is done you will feel better. Read The Bible every day for one half hour. This removes the temporal punishments for sin. You will stay feeling better if you do this. And, finally, thank Jesus for saving your loved one. You will receive great Graces for doing this.

Votive candles are found in every Catholic Church, in the sanctuary. There is usually a small fee for lighting one. Although many Catholic Churches do not specify an exact donation, 50 cents is a good amount. There is usually a box to deposit the money somewhere near the candles. This pays for more candles, so in the future other people can light them for their loved ones. If someone you know needs help, I also strongly advise finding a charity in Israel, that supports Christianity, and blessing God's people by donating to this charity. God says, "Whomever blesses My people I will bless. Whomever curses My people I will curse."

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Cancer is caused by toxins in the body, stress, poor nutrition, an acidic system, and sometimes electro-magnetic flux. In order to cure cancer, you need to get the toxins out of the patient, and return the body to an alkaline state (low acidity).
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KNASH · Regular Joined: 27 Dec 2005 Posts: 14

i know my mother is in heaven. i know she was saved. she lived her life for jesus christ. i'm grieving because we were inseperateable. that is normal when your mother passes not because she may not be in heaven!!!!

AwesomeMachine · New User Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 7 Location: USA

[quote="KNASH"]i know my mother is in heaven. i know she was saved. she lived her life for jesus christ. i'm grieving because we were inseperateable. that is normal when your mother passes not because she may not be in heaven!!!![/quote]

Extreme debilitating grief is not normal. It is not normal to be incapacitated with grief. It is normal to be sad, very sad, for a while. Grief does not ordinarily cause someone's life to change radically. It is a process that people go through, for better or for worse, which can have some very beneficial results. What I find most interesting is that people having a difficult time with grief find it almost impossible to really express themselves and get feedback on who they really are. This is how the grief is transformed into something good. When someone shares with you their similar suffering, and cares enough about you to write a reply to your post this is a credit to you. You are a good person, and I share your suffering. I know it feels bad, and it will for a while. If you are unable to do your normal activities, I would advise doing what I told you. I knew my Sister went to Heaven because she was a Christian, went to prayer meetings, Church, prayed, spoke of Jesus. So, she wore Jesus, but she wore Him over a core of controlling anger. When my grief persisted for years, I did what I mentioned earlier, and all the pain went away.
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